Saturday, August 22, 2009

A Life Outside Facebook-land! What to do before and after you are DISABLED!

I can't help anyone with getting their facebook account re-enabled... I can't do it for myself. I have to wait in line like everyone else... though many people I know simply create a new email address, and have to start all over sometimes. I am fortunate enough that I had many emails for my college friends already in my regular email contacts, and through some of them, I can pretty much connect to anyone else if, I really need to.

As for family, I had created a family group online, and it was left with no administrator, when I became disabled from facebook. When it became "open" to anyone to become the new administrator, I had my mother claim the spot, so I could have a message sent out to alert people about why I suddenly disappeared... So, PREPARE for the eventuality you could be kicked off facebook, and have a friend you trust OR family members in any group you create to be an administrator with you. If or when I get my account reinstated, she will transfer that back to me too.

The key to saving your sanity when all your contacts and photos on facebook are suddenly taken away...is the same thing they tell you about backing up everything on your computer, if it would ever crash... Multiple back ups, save photos at multiple sites, type the names of every friend or family members into your personal email list (don't copy and paste it either...this is what I understand is called "scraping" do that too often, and you will also be disabled !!) Point is you might have to do a bit more MANUAL labor, to not be perceived as an automated spammer or robotic device or program that might be malicious !!

And the best thing is this advice... GET YOUR LIFE (and BUSINESS) OFF FACEBOOK !

If you are trying to reconnect for networking and business: Go to LinkedIn
If you want to share short statuses and things with friends: Go to twitter
If you want to have a better and more varied way to stay in contact with friends, family and promote yourself, or your business: Go to Google! Make a blog at Blogger, add the Friend Connect feature... then invite all your friends...

Remember these kind of things can be read by ANYONE, and you don't have to be a friend of anyone, or join facebook! I just did, today and it is up and running !

Or you can go back to the mySpace place and use that too... Plus there are MANY more similar sites for social networking, I don't even know about...

The point is, the way to get around the big roadblock facebook throws at you..is to TAKE A NEW ROAD!

Back up...literally and figuratively, do the job of putting all your important contacts somewhere OFF facebook NOW, and every time you add something or someone new.

And back up... even USING facebook, take another road, an alternate route, so when one place like facebook goes down, and trust me, it could... you will not be left stranded, with no clue how to get back to the places and people you have come to be dependent on.

Use facebook as a last resort and ONLY for fun....Keep all the serious business and your REALLY important stuff for the other sites, and back it up A LOT !!